Can we make the snowman now, the little one asked. Almost time, I said, almost time. Well, he said, when will it be the right time? And I asked him to think about it. He was still for a minute and then asked me what I meant.
Well, I said, there is a right time and a not so right time about things. Can you name some things that have a right time? He looked at me and with a bright smile that showed gleaming teeth, said, yes!!! Well then, I said, tell me.
And he looked at me and said that it was always a right time to make cookies. It was a right time to eat ice cream. And it was a right time to take care of those littler than you. And it is always a right time to put your toys away when you are ready for bed. I agreed with all of those and I said that was good thinking.
And then I asked for examples of things that don’t have a right time. Can you think of some and tell me what those are. Welllll. . . .he said, the not so right time is when you ask me to do something and I am not ready because I am not finished with what I am doing. Intrigued, I asked, what can you possibly be doing that I don’t know about and especially when it is the right time? And he looked at me with wonder, puzzled. . . . .you don’t know? Nooooo, I said, I don’t.
Well, he said, when I am doing private things and ‘specially when I am telling secrets and those are private things.
When I am talking to my friends that you don’t see. And when do you do that, I asked. When I play and whisper things to them. They whisper back but you can’t hear them. But we have talks and they are my friends. Who are they, I asked. These are good friends from before. When, before, I asked. Before I came to you, he said. They are my forever friends, he said. Forever.
Hold onto them, I said. Hold tightly to them. And you be their forever friend. Tell me next time you talk so that I can wait till you are through. I know, he said that you have forever friends. How do you know this, I asked. I see you move your lips and I know you are talking to your forever friends. I watch-ed you, he said. I watch-ed you.
And then I hugged this little forever friend who watch-ed me.