There is a common problem among us and it bears thinking about in the hope that there will be an answer or a lesson learned that may point to a possible resolution. It is the need to know that there is a someone who waits for us. Or a someone who cares whether we come home or not. Or a someone who cares where we are at this very moment.
For children, this is crucial. How crucial we only have to see what is happening in the world or watch what is happening on our street. For the child in all of us, who has not been allowed grow up or whom we hold onto for fear of growing up alone, it is just as crucial or even fearful. We have become a society that we say cherishes its independence, doesn’t want others or anyone to account to or truly exhibits a facade to show the wold at large we are really quite all right with the way things are. But let me put this into this equation.
If this is truly the situation, if we are truly this independent society that doesn’t care whether anyone takes note of our goings and comings, tell me then why the heart responds with ‘I really needed to hear you say that’ when I tell my beloveds that their being in my life makes my life worthwhile? But you see everyone needs to hear that. Everyone needs to know that someone thinks their life is worthwhile, no matter how small the difference one makes, what does matter is that someone notices this difference which may take all the effort this soul can summon. Everyone needs to know someone cares. Not the someone only in family whom you think has to love you, but someone who notices you as a person who is trying their uttermost to make a difference.
Everyone at times, if not all times for some, feels isolated. There is this separation that is more common in this day than I care to think. It is because life is awry. There are few meals together and no one on the premises. No one at home. And we need someone at home when we are children and it is nice when we are adults. It is a wholesome goodness to know someone is waiting for us to come home. That someone cares enough for us to want us to come home. I realize how difficult it is to raise children even on two incomes. Perhaps we need to make room for extended families again. Perhaps we need to rethink our directions and what is important to the whole family. Do we need to rethink our priorities and look to see accommodating various elderly members within the family again. There is a problem not only in our cities but in suburbs and rural areas as well. There are ways to help with this dilemma.
We can work it out. We must. The emotional growth of our very young and our peoples as a whole need to know we are not alone and there is someone, even one someone who looks forward and waits for us to come home. We may find that there would be a spiritual healing throughout our lives should we invest ourselves in this very common problem. We may yet come alive with emotional good health and spirit.