Outside The Frame of Reference. 

Oftentimes I seem to speak in a language that is foreign to my listeners,  whether they be family or friends.  What I say is obvious to me, clear as crystal and  I am using the same words I hear from them all,  but  I stumble.  I strive for a particular word that crawls within my history for the particular nuance I try to relate.  It somehow is not a word that means to another what I want it to.  I struggle with this all the time.  I contrived an acronym,  TEGO.  The Eyes Glaze Over.  When I see this happen,  my frantic response are more words to explain what I am not obviously doing.  The following response from a recent journal from the Teachers is . . .

Keep in mind with your squabbles with anyone and everyone,  that when it is outside the frame of reference,  outside that frame, that circle, that boundary, when it is outside that frame of reference, one cannot relate.  Because each piece of information when it roots will push the frame of reference a bit farther out.  Each piece of information that makes sense, that roots, that finds sense or reason will have a magnetic action.  It will unite with something similar and it grows and fusion begins.  Another piece and unification happens and the boundary is pushed out even more.  Each new piece is absorbed to the first held item, rebounds and we have a macro something.  What happens is growth at a faster pace for awhile.  Enough so that it is noticeable and the frame of reference expands and we have another human in evolution again. 

When there is nothing in the frame that attracts what is given for free, it is worth nothing to the individual.  When something clicks, it is a grand feeling.  When one is given a drink that satisfies,  we satiate thirst for everyone.  Growth seems a snail’s pace,  but in evolution, no grades are skipped. 

Small Bear or Large Cub?

We can interchange
our adjectives
and the words take on
different meanings,  depending
on our frame of reference.

We may find that bigotry
is the same as prejudiced preferences
and my color may be other
than what you are.

It is quite right for where you are
if that is all right with you.
But I ask, will you clean house
and set straight your attitudes

so you can say gay with no malice?

 

 

Art by Claudia Hallissey