I am calling to touch base with you. It has been too long since we chatted I said. And after a surprised response she started and went on at great length finding her own equilibrium.
I could do nothing for her except be an ear to listen. She called me the next day with gratitude because she said she was ready to puddle. And there was no one to mop her up.
Another young friend would be facing an enormous decision the following week. I was in a quandary about what to do and then realized I could only be an assistant. I could not decide nor input any information.
I would plead ignorance even if I was expert and credentialed. Unless asked, there was no insight I could offer. With today’s abundance of information, there is too much in fact. The brain can only handle so much since everyone is expert in everything. All I could do was stand by and catch the fall out.
Another body, another human is what is needed. Just presence. Just being there is what is needed for the individual to stand and make their own decisions. Just someone to listen to the garbage spilling forth and not stop loving them. To take them in their frustration and to let it dissipate so the residue does not kill them.
Just to be able to have a someone there who does not fall down will enable them to stand and do what they must.
I don’t have time for your drama a husband said and left his wife to handle the emotional conflict of the children. At that moment he exhibited nothing to recommend him as a husband and nothing surely as a father.
Well, mister, that is what earth life, physical life is all about. Here we learn either to handle our emotions or gift them onto unsuspecting shoulders and watch our grandchildren fight the same battles.
Is this our desire? To see the icons of past history smashed by the frustration of generations of ancestral progeny rising demanding restitution?
How better to spend your time than by listening to a soul in search of an ear to hear their lament? Be the quiet symbol of peace. Be the one who stands and gives Presence to allow the right thing to be done.
To Be is the all we can and must do. . . . is sometimes the ALL that is required.
artwork is Claudia Hallissey’s